3-Tips on How to Make Time for Yourself.
Me Time – How does a busy mom make crucial ME time?
Do you find yourself upset?
Yelling at everyone and then disliking yourself for doing so?
Are you short-fused and lack patience?
- You are a wife and mother
- You work full-time
- Your kids have activities during the week, sometimes on weekends, and you’re always ‘chauffeuring’ them around
- You feel tired all the time
- You feel stuck and don’t like the way you feel
- And sometimes you even take work projects home with you
The day is done before you know it and you’re left frustrated because you haven’t found any time for yourself.
You know the importance of exercise, distressing, eating healthier, and finding time to slow down and relax – but how can you make this happen?
By following these top 3-steps you can make important time for yourself:
1. Don’t feel guilty
-Do you feel guilty at the simple thought of making time for yourself?
-Do you feel like you are the only one who can drive your kids to their activities, make all the family meals, and then feel guilty when this doesn’t happen?
-Do you feel guilty when you leave your work project at work?
You need to stop being a superwoman and realize that you need help. Do not feel guilty asking for help! Talk to your spouse/partner about sharing the responsibility – like driving the kids to their activities, and if that’s not an option, ask another parent to take turns with you picking up and driving each other’s kids.
Do not feel guilty expressing to your family that you need help preparing the family meals. Make it a fun family event. Put on some music and sing together while someone washes and cuts up the vegetables, another spice the meat and set the table. Consider this a bonding time – a time for conversation, sharing the day’s adventures and even the upsets.
Do not feel guilty for leaving work at work. If you have a huge project, express to your superiors that you would prefer working as a team to get it done. Remember to only take on one project at a time, not two or three. And if within the first two weeks, you realize this is a bigger project than you thought, do not feel guilty asking for an extension – express how you feel about the importance of creating, producing, and completing a superior final project. I am sure your superior would respect you for your honesty and your work ethics.
2. Schedule a ‘date’ with yourself
Mark your ‘date’ as important.
Do not let something/someone take it away from you – unless an emergency arises – and driving your kids to the mall is not an emergency.
Mark your ‘date’ in a bright permanent marker, not a pencil (this way you can’t scratch it out or use the excuse, “I forgot”). Schedule your ‘date’ on your calendar or phone.
And you know your kid’s extracurricular activities and/or practice – take this time to go for a walk, a run, sit in a quiet spot and just relax, or grab that book you’ve been meaning to read and read it.
Wake up 30 – 60 minutes earlier in the morning – before everyone else rises – and dedicate it to exercises. Can you imagine 30-minutes where no one is demanding your attention and no disturbances? Just you and your time.
Your workout will leave you feeling
– your self-esteem is boosted and positive
-and you’ll be ready and willing to take on the day.
Get ready for your family and co-workers to comment on how great you’re looking and how much happier you seem. And if that’s not a big bonus, I don’t know what is.
Take 1-day a month and
– go out with your friends for coffee/tea
– make time to get together
– have some good old fashion fun
Remember, your kids play and/or hang out with their friends, so why can’t you! The last thing you want is to lose is your special friendship and bond you have with your close friends.
3. Find something you love to do
You have something you love to do, maybe a hobby, and it makes you happy. When you talk about it, everyone can hear the passion in your voice. You glow with excitement just thinking about it and you could talk about it for hours.
But, when was the last time you did what you love?
What is your activity or hobby that is important to you?
Does it make a positive difference in your life?
Is it something that makes you feel accomplished and important?
You make a point of emphasizing to family members the importance of pursuing something they love, especially if it is important to them, so what is stopping you from doing the same?
If you currently can’t participate/able to partake in your hobby, for example, write about it, close your eyes and image yourself doing it.
Did you know when we visualize the things we love to do, it releases feel-good hormones, and who doesn’t want to feel good and happy!
Take time this evening, before you go to bed, and journal your thoughts and wishes.
Spend 10-minutes every evening doing this instead of watching tv or sitting in front of the computer.
By doing so you have taken a simplified, easy 10-minutes and made time for yourself.
So there you have it. 3-simple steps on how to make time for yourself.
Follow each step and before you know it you’ll be more relaxed, less stressed and frustrated, and a lot happier with yourself – with your life.
I’d love to know what you think and how you are going to begin implementing these simple 3-steps into your life and make important time for yourself.